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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: RichardLover55 on July 14, 2020, 01:57:09 PM



Title: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: RichardLover55 on July 14, 2020, 01:57:09 PM
My ex girlfriend put this phrase as Whatsapp status : "Whoever loves me follow me otherwise goodbye". Do you think it's related to me and she want me to send her a message ? Is this a charm attempt ? If she sent me a message it would be a lot easier. But above all, I have to chese her and respond or continue the no contact ? I'd like to go back with her, but I don't know what's best. Tomorrow is a month that she has left me and we have not messaged for twenty days, I stopped watching her stories on social media, she looks at those of my friends to see what I do I presume.


Title: Re: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: Mutt on July 14, 2020, 03:40:34 PM
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She also told me that I deserve better and that if she would not leave me I would have done it myself, in addition she said that she no longer loves me when 2 hours before she swore to love me !

This telegraphs her insecurities - she think s that other women are better than her therefore you’re going to leave her for someone else. She’s testing you -  she wants to see that if she breaks up with you if you’re going to start playing the field.

If she’s attracted to you she’ll want you to chase her.

It’s up to you with what you want to do but if you’re attracted to her then send her a signal that you are attracted to her but my advice is to pass her test you need to remain centered and show her that you’re not going to leave her for someone else by not saying but by actually doing it.

How interested are you in this girl?


Title: Re: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: RichardLover55 on July 14, 2020, 04:31:12 PM
This telegraphs her insecurities - she think s that other women are better than her therefore you’re going to leave her for someone else. She’s testing you -  she wants to see that if she breaks up with you if you’re going to start playing the field.

If she’s attracted to you she’ll want you to chase her.

It’s up to you with what you want to do but if you’re attracted to her then send her a signal that you are attracted to her but my advice is to pass her test you need to remain centered and show her that you’re not going to leave her for someone else by not saying but by actually doing it.

How interested are you in this girl?
I care about her, the day after she left me I reiterated my love but she discarded me again. He said he didn't want to hurt me but as he told me in person, he no longer feels love than before (I think that's an excuse). So then I disappeared. I'm in trouble because she's become very cold towards me, she looked like another person and I don't know how to communicate with her anymore. She cut me out of her life and I don't understand, I did everything I could to make her understand how much I really cared. I wasn't scared of her problems, I'd be by her side if she started a psychological journey. But since we saw each other after the quarantine, she's changed and gone out of her way to sabotage our relationship. I'd just need one message, unless she left me for someone else and kept it from me.


Title: Re: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: Goosey on July 14, 2020, 06:05:59 PM
I have said to to people that “I don’t recognize my wife anymore”
She won’t look at me unless she is screaming at me. We had to negotiate if I was able to talk for a moment and was told I could speak but she wasn’t listening.
Beautiful woman. But last times I saw this beautiful blue eyes it was like I was looking at a black eyed shark as she destroyed me.
   Dunno.  Maybe I am being dramatic but my daughter said the same thing with her encounters in the end.
   The end. Haha. It will never end.


Title: Re: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: RichardLover55 on July 15, 2020, 03:34:32 AM
I have said to to people that “I don’t recognize my wife anymore”
She won’t look at me unless she is screaming at me. We had to negotiate if I was able to talk for a moment and was told I could speak but she wasn’t listening.
Beautiful woman. But last times I saw this beautiful blue eyes it was like I was looking at a black eyed shark as she destroyed me.
   Dunno.  Maybe I am being dramatic but my daughter said the same thing with her encounters in the end.
   The end. Haha. It will never end.
During the quarantine we were constantly making video calls and she seems to be very much in love, she also gave me a portrait of me and my dog. It completely dismayed me by the change of behavior towards me, how is it possible that she's no longer love me ? She told me that she was the wrong one, that she felt like and that I hadn't done anything wrong. Our relationship started with her wanting a serious story and when she broke up with me she told me she was immature and wasn't ready for a serious story, it's a meaningless excuse.


Title: Re: This is her first attempt ?
Post by: RichardLover55 on July 15, 2020, 03:45:11 AM
This telegraphs her insecurities - she think s that other women are better than her therefore you’re going to leave her for someone else. She’s testing you -  she wants to see that if she breaks up with you if you’re going to start playing the field.

If she’s attracted to you she’ll want you to chase her.

It’s up to you with what you want to do but if you’re attracted to her then send her a signal that you are attracted to her but my advice is to pass her test you need to remain centered and show her that you’re not going to leave her for someone else by not saying but by actually doing it.

How interested are you in this girl?
How can I show her that I only want her ?