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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: problemsolver on August 10, 2015, 01:01:25 PM



Title: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: problemsolver on August 10, 2015, 01:01:25 PM
So I haven't physically seen or verbally said anything to my BPDex in a few 2 months but today ... I was driving home and I seen her walking on the sidewalk looking at her phone... she glanced up glanced down glanced up glanced down... noticed it was me (I think)... I didn't slow down, I didn't verbally say anything out of the window , I didn't honk the horn, nothing... but after I drove past her she took off running... like wherever she was calmly going before looking at her phone all the sudden became urgent and she literally took off on a dead sprint after I drove past her... .Coincidence perhaps? As many of you on here it didn't end all to well in our ("r/s". I was actually considering breaking NC... in a subtle way as she seemed to be giving me signals through social media and warming up to some sort of contact but now i'm scared hah... .Maybe i'm looking to deeply into this but her awkward reaction kind of makes me feel uneasy , as if I was gonna rip a U turn at 50 mph and chase her down and beg for closure or something weird like that lol I dunno... .

Thoughts ?


Title: Re: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: OnceConfused on August 10, 2015, 02:44:57 PM
you are thinking too hard right now. Just let it be.


Title: Re: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: SGraham on August 10, 2015, 11:04:30 PM
Yeah like once confused said, try not to think about it. I've found that if i dwell on my ex's actions too much i end up convincing myself I did something wrong or something weird. Its odd how they can do that to us.


Title: Re: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: JohnnyShoes on August 11, 2015, 07:38:47 PM
I think you are trying to rationalize something that's irrational!

Oil and water.

Can anyone know what goes on inside their mind?

I sure dont. Yes, I've tried... and am guilty of still finding myself doing it. But how can we?

We think they would think and act as we... .but THATS our mistake I think.


Title: Re: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: SGraham on August 14, 2015, 01:11:17 AM
I think you are trying to rationalize something that's irrational!

Oil and water.

Can anyone know what goes on inside their mind?

I sure dont. Yes, I've tried... and am guilty of still finding myself doing it. But how can we?

We think they would think and act as we... .but THATS our mistake I think.

That's a good point. I am definitely guilty of that in all my interpersonal relationship. I guess it's just hard to to see why others don't think the way we do.


Title: Re: 2 months NC ran into an awkward situation right now...
Post by: Lucky Jim on August 14, 2015, 10:16:14 AM
Hey problemsolver, My T once gave me a piece of advice: "If something is crazy, drop it!"   :)

LuckyJim