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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: jeff-nonb on September 21, 2014, 11:48:33 PM



Title: Ask Me Anything - here to share my experience
Post by: jeff-nonb on September 21, 2014, 11:48:33 PM
 :light: I am in need of an outlet.  :light:  [cross-posted from intro]

I am Jeff.  I am divorced and have 2 teenaged boys.

Back before 2001 I learned what BPD is, and that my then-wife suffered from it, because I was personally diagnosed as "one who is in a relationship with someone suffering from BPD"  which was diagnosis enough.  I found "The Nook"  in 2001 when my children were aged three and five, and I spent several hours out of the house at Kinkos plugged into the Internet each day.  From that (this?) forum I learned about and then bought SWOE, and subsequently received support here, and other help from psychologists along the way for a few years.   

So I've been separated for nine years, and achieved my goal of providing a home of my own for my boys.  I have shared custody 50/50 (generally)... .but it doesn't really apply since they are 18 and 16 now, and the older one is FAR AWAY at college.

I don't want to create a novel, but you deserve this kind of general info so I can provide answers to questions if you've got any for me.

I need this.  Ask away.

:)    :)