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Title: Shut down mood Post by: hodasalim on March 26, 2014, 06:46:26 AM HI BPD falimy
Can you please share what do you do when ur BPD partner is depressed and decide to go with the shut down mood ? my BPDbf has been in this mood for weeks now and he seems to refuse to engage in any activity that can take him out of it any suggestions ? Title: Re: Shut down mood Post by: 123Phoebe on March 27, 2014, 07:07:59 AM Hi hodasalim,
I get that it can take its toll when our SO's seem to be emotionally shut off from the world and us. For me, it felt reminiscent of being a child when there were all kinds of wacky things going on with my family; my immediate needs were far from being met. I somehow felt responsible for the happiness of the family. My partner has had his own way of dealing with things long before I came into his life. Realizing this has helped take the responsibility off my shoulders. To let him work things through on his own. The less involved I have become, the more open he has. I stay involved in my own life :) For me, that involves day to day stuff-- my job, time with my dog, dinner with friends, a walk through the bookstore, planning my gardens, cleaning out a cupboard or closet, getting the telescope out, shredding papers... . etc Just life stuff. Nothing extraordinary or over the top. Nothing aimed at him to cause a reactionary response. I am busy living. And in return, he has responded very well to this Does it sound plausible for your own situation? |