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Title: Giving an inch Post by: BigOof on May 23, 2022, 07:25:38 PM Choice:
1) Cooperate reciprocally about parenting, or 2) Get sued. I don't understand why my pwBPD chooses the latter option every time (and then loses). Our D3 can't: - leave the country - leave the state - engage in team activities - go on vacation within the state pwBPD fear of abandonment is so extreme she'd rather restrict our child from doing anything than give an inch. Any one else have the same experience? Title: Re: Giving an inch Post by: HBfitmom on May 24, 2022, 10:33:25 AM Sorry you're in this situation. Hopefully she will start thinking more of your daughter than herself.
Title: Re: Giving an inch Post by: ForeverDad on May 25, 2022, 11:41:19 AM Reminds me of my ex in required mediation...
In my case we were ordered to have up to 3 mediation sessions. At the first session we went through and agreed to all but a few material or financial issues. We stalled on custody and a parenting schedule. Ex was determined our son was "her" child, that's how things were in her native culture. Factoid: She was born and raised half her childhood in the state I resided in when I met her. Mediator countered, "We're in the USA, not there." (Another factoid, but I failed to mention it in the session: Her mother let her father raise her two older brothers, her mother and the abuser SF raised her and her sister. Well, I was the father of our male child, according to her parents' example then shouldn't I raise our son?) Mediator saw we were at an impasse, ended the session and said "Come back when your positions change." (We didn't go back.) She didn't want to leave at the same time as me, still posturing as the fearful stbEx, so I stayed behind until she had driven away. As she walked out the door the mediator commented to the air, "This woman has issues." After one session. Mediation failed as expected but at least I tried with good faith efforts. |