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Hi

Long story short my friend cut me off after a disagreement/minor argument over his treatment of me.  Its been nearly 4 months and I reached out yesterday.  Here is my post on the detaching board which is probably better on this board.  

Hi all

I was wavering about breaking no contact and sat with my uncomfortable feelings for a few days (couldn't get on here for anybody to talk me out of it) but succumbed yesterday and sent my friend a message on FB.  I said it was going to be the last time I ever tried to reach out, that I knew he was reading my messages and cared about me but was scared to get too close to somebody which i now understood and realise my actions and words did not help the last time we spoke.  I basically said the door was left open for him to contact me anytime should he wish to but I wouldn't be reaching out to him again and that I missed him and our silly conversations and that I hoped he was well and happy.

I wasn't expecting anything; however about 6 hours later he accepted my messages on FB and sent me one back but it was just his new mobile number (he said he was going to change it before he cut me off so no surprise that he had a new number).  So no words, just his mobile number.  I thanked him for it and said I'd ring in a few days and hoped all was well with him, which he read but did not respond to.

Now I'm nervous as hell to ring him as I get the impression he's still not 100% cool with me.

Any advice?

Hi izzybusy,

What makes you nervous? Are you having hopes getting together again? Are you ok being in regular contact again? Are you afraid he is with someone else?