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Title: Ghosting and BPD? Post by: Greg on March 28, 2020, 06:22:07 AM "Ghosting" seems to be the new emotional abuse / neglect behavior of the modern age. It's deeply normalized today. Don't want to disagree with someone? Just disappear from their life, forever. No explanation.
"Ghosting" hurts a lot, and, imo, is the result of immature conflict-avoidant personalities. HOWEVER, I do believe it is 100% justified if you are escaping an abusive relationship (such as BPD). My Q is this though: Does "ghosting" hurt us survivors a little more? I find that it really zings me, more than most things. I was raised by a BPD and wonder what effect that still has on me (10 wonderful years of NC!) still. Here's a fun little image: (https://i.imgur.com/uCOvpkr.jpg) Title: Re: Ghosting and BPD? Post by: shield-me on March 28, 2020, 07:04:31 AM Hi Greg, you are totally right about the ghosting. It's awful modern behaviour. It hurts especially being raised by someone who does that to you. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I totally sympathize about your situation. Do you have anyone else like other family or friends who understand your situation? Or a support group?
Excerpt HOWEVER, I do believe it is 100% justified if you are escaping an abusive relationship (such as BPD). Yes, 100% true. I had to do this for my own sanity.Title: Re: Ghosting and BPD? Post by: Greg on March 30, 2020, 03:21:34 AM Thanks for the reply. Don't really have anyone, so it's good to be here. :hug:
Title: Re: Ghosting and BPD? Post by: madeline7 on March 31, 2020, 09:30:06 AM I am of the feeling that just about everything hurts me more as a survivor. I was a very happy go lucky child, but now have become hypervigilant as an adult after years of being manipulated by a BPDm and enabler dad, and your post validates this for me. Ghosting, being excluded, are particularly hurtful.
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