Title: Today i am throwing the ashes of my exBPD shirt in the ocean Post by: guy4caligirl on November 14, 2014, 11:26:25 AM I am sorry if I will offend any one here but you are my friends and I hope you understand the purpose of doing that .
Today the 14 marks the anniversary of her departure 4 months ago . I thought if I do that relationship funeral ,I will really put her behind me and go NC for ever . It's sad but it might help me every time I think of her to switch to seeing the ashes falling slowly in the Ocean Title: Re: Today i am throwing the ashes of my exBPD shirt in the ocean Post by: thatwasthat on November 14, 2014, 11:32:25 AM I think it is a great idea to be honest.
As with many things I think it can help a lot find a certain kind of closure when you have a symbolic end point. I was pondering selling my wedding ring. Bit it ended up on the bottom of the ocean too. Title: Re: Today i am throwing the ashes of my exBPD shirt in the ocean Post by: Pingo on November 14, 2014, 01:13:45 PM I think that's an excellent idea. When people we love die we get to have a funeral and say a proper goodbye. But in this type of BU we are left with no closure. I think these rituals are important. Last weekend I shredded all cards & letters and mailed the last of the things I had of his to his brother. I also went out and replaced all the things he kept of mine and wouldn't return. So these things signify my closure. I'm trying to think of a ritual I could do with my s10 (ex's stepson) as he didn't get to say goodbye and is not knowing how to grieve this. It's very difficult for him.
Title: Re: Today i am throwing the ashes of my exBPD shirt in the ocean Post by: pallavirajsinghani on November 14, 2014, 04:47:07 PM You have a big heart and you are respectful. I think I would have flushed the ashes in a public toilet.
I do not mean this post to be funny, rather complimentary of you. Title: Re: Today i am throwing the ashes of my exBPD shirt in the ocean Post by: guy4caligirl on November 15, 2014, 06:36:37 AM You have a big heart and you are respectful. I think I would have flushed the ashes in a public toilet. I do not mean this post to be funny, rather complimentary of you. I never thought about it in that way , I probably should have lol |