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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: whirlpoollife on January 29, 2016, 07:21:07 PM



Title: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: whirlpoollife on January 29, 2016, 07:21:07 PM
Creditors are calling my landline phone for xh .   I get mail ( looks like from creditors too, I fwd it ) for his business that he quit a year ago.    He hasn't lived with me for over three years.

They say they call his cell phone but can't get through. 

They ask for his current address, does anyone know if I can legally give it to them?




Title: Re: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: livednlearned on January 30, 2016, 10:36:17 AM
I'm not sure about the legalities, but my experience with creditors is that they will eventually find who they're looking for. And it's hard to hide your address from government, which I believe become part of the public records that drive all these address locator services online.

My ex had collections agencies after him when we met and I believed him when he said it was due to his ex wife's excessive credit card debt. 

Those agencies did not give up.


Title: Re: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: bravhart1 on January 30, 2016, 04:29:19 PM
i dont see how it could be ilegal to give his phone number and address. He owes the money, they are just doing their job, you shouldn't have to be subjected to getting his collection calls, pass on the info to them and don't bring it up to him.


Title: Re: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: hope2727 on January 30, 2016, 05:28:44 PM
I would hand over the info in a heartbeat.



Title: Re: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: whirlpoollife on January 31, 2016, 10:48:43 PM
Thanks for the replies, I will give them the info they ask for.

He still calls the kids, ( teens) two three times a day to my landline phone , and texts them. It is very irritating when my phone rings knowing its him calling.

Let him enjoy someone he doesn't want calling continue to contact him.

I wonder if he still has the same narcisit  attitude about money and debt now as he did when we were married.  He was not  the same as some one just having poor judgement with money , he looked for other people's money to feed his ego. 



Title: Re: Creditors calling for xh
Post by: ForeverDad on February 01, 2016, 07:44:15 AM
I've gotten calls.  I ignored the messages.  She has a phone, it's never changed in the past decade.  Evidently they're looking at these people search/finder sites that link up past histories.  She was rather frugal and a worker when we were married so I don't have reason to believe she's purposely creating debts, though she did have some grandiose ideas.  I just step out of the way.