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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: In Pain on December 03, 2014, 01:20:42 PM



Title: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: In Pain on December 03, 2014, 01:20:42 PM
This past weeks horoscope.


"You don't stop loving someone just because you reach the point at which love hurts. Beyond that is a deeper understanding of loves true nature "


This is so true. Even if loving a person with BPD hurts like I've never experienced before.

My love for her and my compassion for her pain and challenges are genuine.

I hate this Borderline Disorder... .Hate it !

I hate what it has done to her, her children, even her ex lovers... .I hate what it has done to me. Hate it.

This borderline disorder along with fear of abandonment is so screwy. I read, I read, I read... .

I understand it all. I get it.

And then I say to myself: " This makes no sense" !


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: maxsterling on December 03, 2014, 01:39:47 PM
I like this.   :)

So true.  I, too, hate this disorder.  But through it all and learning about BPD, I have learned more about what it means to be human, what it means to love, and who I am.  Not sure if the pain and frustration is worth it, but it is what it is and the past is the past.  Yet should this r/s end, I will probably go through a painful recovery, yet emerge a stronger and wiser and happier person than when I went in.


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: allibaba on December 03, 2014, 01:43:07 PM
Yet should this r/s end, I will probably go through a painful recovery, yet emerge a stronger and wiser and happier person than when I went in.

True especially when we really work (not just accept the situation) but really work to clean up the things that we can control.  Not the BPD behavior but our own behavior and willingness to accept abuse.


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: MissyM on December 03, 2014, 01:44:45 PM
I have learned so much from my relationship with my dBPDh, both about other people and about myself.  I notice that in working I am much better at validating and listening to clients, and that as a Mom I am much more compassionate with my children and other people's children.  Would be nice if these lessons had been taught to me a little more gently but I might not have listened then. :)


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: In Pain on December 03, 2014, 01:50:24 PM
One thing I have come to realize about myself is this:

Yes, I developed a codependency issue with her…. and I’m sure I’ve got a screw or bolt loose somewhere else…….but:

What gives me my most sanity and makes me know that I am healthy is this:

I have the ability to have compassion for another human being.

I have the ability to care for another human being.

Another persons feeling are important to me.

I feel bad when I hurt someone else.

This confirms to me that I am a normal healthy person.


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: Hawk Ridge on December 03, 2014, 01:58:23 PM
Oh my gosh! Every single post in this thread speaks to me.  I love her. I miss her.  I hate this disease.  I  have painfully learned that I can love, I can be compassionate, and slowly I can come back to life again.  Thank you.  Mostly, i am closer to my faith than I ever have been. Love the part about controlling what I can. The serenity prayer fits


Title: Re: My Horoscope: Sometimes it's so true For Us All. Take a Look
Post by: In Pain on December 03, 2014, 05:16:24 PM
Although I always knew I was basically healthy and normal, the past 5 months since she broke up with me have been so painful... .So painful !

As many members have said... .Give it time... .Give it time.

I'm finally feeling better, have started to date again and have turned the corner.

Not saying I won't recycle if given the opportunity, LOL, but for now, I'm good.

I've even got my sense of humor back.

Glad you enjoyed this post.