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Title: Hopeful Post by: Borders123 on November 15, 2023, 10:27:43 AM My daughter is finally seeking help but I know I must be realistic. Any advice?
Title: Re: Hopeful Post by: kells76 on November 16, 2023, 11:21:28 AM Hey Borders123 :hi: glad you found us.
There's so much packed into your statement -- wow. It's incredible that she's getting help; I hope that gives you some relief. And at the same time, you recognize that this is going to be a marathon, not a sprint. I immediately thought of our article on Supporting a Child in Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder (https://bpdfamily.com/content/support-child-therapy), especially the section about "How long does it take to recover". The recommendations are just what you're asking about: a reminder that change is difficult, and a suggestion to lower your expectations. That isn't to say that "oh, recovery is impossible". It's rather a sort of unintuitive approach that's needed with a pwBPD: the more sensed pressure there is on a pwBPD to "succeed", or "recover", or "do XYZ", the less likely it is to happen. To support a pwBPD in treatment, lowering emotional pressure can be more helpful than "being a cheerleader" or saying "you're so strong, you can do it". Very unintuitive! Take a look at the article -- I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on if/how it applies to your situation. ... How old is your daughter? Is she living at home/with you? |