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Title: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: mr_abandoned on February 16, 2010, 02:47:27 PM
This is for all the people who had their ex cheat and leave them, I near wet myself watching this... .Its soo funny.

www.break.com/index/ultimate_revenge_on_ex.html (http://www.break.com/index/ultimate_revenge_on_ex.html)

Unfortunately my ex's mom is like in her 70's, I def would have tried this if she were younger lol


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: unknown on February 16, 2010, 04:03:39 PM
hahaha


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: doright on February 17, 2010, 01:50:09 PM
downloading it now... .no DSL in our area... .


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: Edie on February 21, 2010, 07:25:53 AM
LMAO... .



Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: TriedSoHard on February 21, 2010, 05:52:36 PM
classic... .laughed my ass off.


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: Desert on February 21, 2010, 06:45:50 PM
I guess I must be humorless but I don't get it.  Perhaps someone will explain it to me?

My ex's sister made a big point of telling me how "disgusting" it was for someone of their age to be dating someone my age.  If that's true, then how can this guy do this?

Or was the ex's sis just mad at her sister and transferring it onto me ?


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: kj1234 on February 21, 2010, 07:06:21 PM
My ex's mother is too much like her--so sweet on the outside and a twisted, bitter, nasty hit_ underneath.  But she's only 15 years older than stbxw--still too old for me.

I couldn't do it myself, but I like the concept.  Maybe a sister instead, but in this case they are all nasty also.  Oh, well.


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: 2010 on February 21, 2010, 09:16:12 PM
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I guess I must be humorless but I don't get it.  Perhaps someone will explain it to me?

Hi Desert.  It’s a clever film school attempt to illustrate a fantasy that breaks a societal taboo. This goes all the way back to the ancient Greeks; seducing members of the same family.  It’s also a great example of triangulation (read definition) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0).

As we watch this, we forgive the boyfriend as being justified in his reaction. The fact that he has a clear reason for revenge makes him *not* psychopathic in our minds, (meaning he isn’t just seducing the Mother out of impulse.) Our immature reaction to think he’s in control and won’t suffer any bad consequences to his behavior makes us laugh.

His plan works because the Mother has no boundaries- and places her own needs before her daughters (probably the reason her daughter placed her own needs before the boyfriend) Because of this the Mother and the boyfriend are both guilty of emotional incest, but the girlfriend is also guilty as well, by sleeping with her boyfriend’s boss. Emotional incest can be actual sex or covert, as in blurring boundaries with different family members (sister, brother, Mother, Father, cousin, etc)

I wish I could say that this doesn’t happen very often, but it does  - and usually with less attractive people and under less attractive circumstances. Just ask Jerry Springer.



Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: TriedSoHard on February 21, 2010, 10:17:52 PM
if you watch it for the sake of just watching, it's funny... .if you analyze it, no, it's horrible... .laugh... .it's good for you.


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: Desert on February 21, 2010, 11:05:21 PM
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Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: JustSaying on February 21, 2010, 11:49:13 PM
My uBPDw's mom used to compete with the daughters for boyfriends when the girls were teenagers. What do you think part of the trauma for this family was? Now the mom's 80ish, suffering some of the ravages of age, and dating a dude about 33 years younger! A family that knew little of boundaries... .

The video was ok... .just brought back some of these memories.


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: kj1234 on February 22, 2010, 03:42:46 PM
80ish grandma with 47 y.o. man?  Wow!  No comment.  How does she do it?


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: Backtome09 on February 22, 2010, 05:01:27 PM
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I guess I must be humorless but I don't get it.  Perhaps someone will explain it to me?

His plan works because the Mother has no boundaries- and places her own needs before her daughters (probably the reason her daughter placed her own needs before the boyfriend) Because of this the Mother and the boyfriend are both guilty of emotional incest, but the girlfriend is also guilty as well, by sleeping with her boyfriend’s boss. Emotional incest can be actual sex or covert, as in blurring boundaries with different family members (sister, brother, Mother, Father, cousin, etc)

Very true about the emotional incest. Have a family of BPDs and there's LOTS of it going on. Very weird stuff to a non.

The video... .sorry... .funny as hell.


Title: Re: Revenge on the Ex
Post by: jalk on February 23, 2010, 07:39:05 AM
Just a little gross.  Great getting back at her though! Go Granny!  Is this what you call a May September romance? Mom is a real cougar!