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Title: Need help finding a link Post by: cartman1 on January 04, 2013, 04:07:22 AM Just wondered if anyone has the link to the 'JADE' and other examples. I've been looking everywhere and can't find them. Think it would be a good bit if reading for me today.
Title: Re: Need help finding a link Post by: Chosen on January 04, 2013, 04:15:41 AM cartman1: welcome back, and see if these links help:
TOOLS: Stop Invalidating Your Partner (or the BPD person in your life) (https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-dont-be-invalidating;all) Communication using validation. What it is; how to do it (https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-validation) How to stop circular arguments (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=118892.0) Title: Re: Need help finding a link Post by: cartman1 on January 04, 2013, 04:32:55 AM Hey chosen,
Yeah, I've read these ones. Being validating is something I've been working on. I started with S.E.T. But find a lot of the time all I need to do is listen. Not be offended by what is being said as it just creates circular arguments and say something like "I didn't realise I was making you feel this way, do you think it would be a good idea if WE... . ?" I try to take her feeling into consideration and try to find a solution that we or she can work on rather than me taking control of a situation. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't 'JADING' |