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Title: is she re-egaging or just testing the waters?... Post by: lacole on January 07, 2013, 11:24:10 AM my old best friend (BPD), with whom I had a falling out with little by little over the past 2 years and then a final falling out with about 8 months ago sent me a text out of the blue this past Saturday.
We were together at a sports event, she was about 15 feet away from me and rather then come over to say anything, she sent me a text instead? I thought this was rather odd as I was close enough to her to approuch me, but then as I have thought about it, Im thinking it was a passive/agreesive move to test the waters. And of course, no mention of the fall out, her text was like nothing ever happened! Her text was very nice, wishing me a nice new year, etc. We texted back and forth for alittle bit after I left the event. What is going on here? Title: Re: is she re-egaging or just testing the waters?... Post by: Newton on January 07, 2013, 11:33:09 AM lacole... . I think it's all too easy to be suspicious that all their motives have dark intentions for us... .
Perhaps she was fearful of your response, so a txt seemed more appropriate to her?... . The key emotions behind this disorder are rage, shame, fear... . possibly this time it was fear? Title: Re: is she re-egaging or just testing the waters?... Post by: lacole on January 10, 2013, 11:30:54 AM Im sure she is fearful... . I havnt said a peep to her or given her a glance in almost a year.
Just not sure what she wants now? Yes, Im suspicious... . Title: Re: is she re-egaging or just testing the waters?... Post by: Newton on January 10, 2013, 12:26:05 PM If you are comfortable having contact with her... . could you txt her and ask her what she wants?... .
Her response may ease your suspicions... . or confirm that those suspicions are well founded... . You have control over her contact... . try not to ruminate too much about the "what if's"... . |iiii |