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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: nowwhatz on January 29, 2013, 10:24:18 PM



Title: Am I Detached?
Post by: nowwhatz on January 29, 2013, 10:24:18 PM
Hi everyone.

Well here I am and it has been 1 week since I last saw my exBPDudgf and I am hardly thinking about her and not missing her much.  I thought about trying to call her but almost have to work at it to get myself 'worked up.'

Lucky for me I have had some incredible work drama and a lot of work to keep me busy. And I have a band I am in that has a show this weekend... .  so my plate is pretty full.

Now that I have a few minutes to reflect I wonder if I am really finally detached after 2 years of the roller coaster from hell.

Anyways I have nothing too exciting to report. I have not really been doing things for myself other than working.  I am hanging out with a normal girl who has been sort of after me for 1 year and I finally had sex with her last weekend. Was a lot of fun and I look forward to some more... .  no attachement, just friends.

There was no way in the world I could imagine doing anything like that a few months ago.

Well... .  this could be the calm before the storm. The ex has not reached out to me and I don't expect much from her until she has her next 'need' for me.

But the withdrawals like I used to have before seem pretty mild.

No overconfidence here... .  I have been too busy to really be too depressed... .  but can't complain :)

I hope I am really getting closer to getting the albatras off my neck.  Thanks for listening.


Title: Re: Am I Detached?
Post by: Surnia on January 30, 2013, 02:19:32 PM
Sounds good, nowwhatz!

It is not a bad thing to be busy or to busy to ruminate about the past.

Enjoy the good moments!  :)


Title: Re: Am I Detached?
Post by: Phoenix.Rising on January 30, 2013, 03:19:24 PM
I'm taking it a day at a time. 



Title: Re: Am I Detached?
Post by: casper324 on January 30, 2013, 10:44:40 PM
Sorry to say but No.

She was a girlfriend andd you are posting on her disorders forum!