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Title: Evaporate BPD
Post by: freshlySane on January 30, 2013, 06:34:50 AM
I was reading that this can go away if life gets better so if life get better for a pwBPD does it go away with time?


Title: Re: Evaporate BPD
Post by: hithere on January 30, 2013, 11:11:37 AM
I don't think it ever does.  With lots of therapy they can improve and at times of less stress they can be easier to get along with.


Title: Re: Evaporate BPD
Post by: HarmKrakow on January 30, 2013, 11:24:39 AM
I was reading that this can go away if life gets better so if life get better for a pwBPD does it go away with time?

I'm no professional but BPD does not go away 'with time'. It is a mental disorder and therefore needs frequent and long therapy to chance the 'core' thinking process of a BPDer.

That ... yes that does take time.


Title: Re: Evaporate BPD
Post by: seeking balance on January 30, 2013, 11:37:07 AM
I was reading that this can go away if life gets better so if life get better for a pwBPD does it go away with time?

This is a good question.

There are 2 things at play in this question - BPD as an illness and the maladaptive coping mechanisms.

BPD will not go away over time.  However, stress is a major factor on whether the maladaptive coping mechanisms are triggered.

The way I think of it - BPD is the fact that the person is highly emotional in responses when triggered.  Anything can be a trigger.

It is the responses that were such chaos for my personal life.  Things such as projection, gaslighting, drinking, affairs, cutting, etc - these maladaptive coping mechanisms will be there until effective treatment is sought.  DBT doesn't tend to say these feeling are bad, it gives tools to help effectively cope with the feelings.