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She(30) was beautiful and vulnerable it seemed. The passion we had was intoxicating. Wanted to be with me 24/7Lasted for a good year. But for that matter I(41) was ok with it. I totally fell in love with her. Then the push and pull regarding marriage. 

There were a lot of signs in the begining. Not a whole of boundarieseither.  The fact her mom had married 4 times was the first red flag. Her wanting to be married 6 months into our r/s was another. She was never really mean but would react hyper-emotionally to stress. Cry a lot. She'd get upset and get quiet then I would press the issue to resolve it only to be told I was mean then it would escalate to nonsensicle reasoning, deflection. It seemed like it cycled every 3 months. Really strange.

She was probably the waif/internalizer type, like my last guy. They don't rage outwards, but inwards--using passive aggression, push/pull, manipulation, etc. Aside from the crazy-making behavior, they can be quite angelic... .  which makes them hard to hate! And makes one put up with the crazy-making behavior longer. I had one year amazing time and one year crazy-making time. He would bring up marriage and when I finally said yes, all the madness began.

The push/pull regarding marriage in your relationship, was it her who was pulling away when you mentioned marriage or vice versa?

She's the one who kept pushing for marriage. Every anniversary or special occasion or holiday like Valentines day she would expect for me to propose to her. I told her I did want to get married but some of her behaviors were very unusal and I would tell we needed to resolve issues but she unable to see things at times from my perspective. She also was jeleous of my kids. In a very immature manner. I eventually bought a house for us and a wedding ring last year. When she officially moved in, that's when the crazy making started and eventually fell apart.