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Title: what are some ways to help decide? (therapist etc) Post by: momtara on February 02, 2013, 09:54:31 AM I am wondering how you are making your decision, and what helps. I'm really at a crossroads between divorcing my husband and giving him one more shot, and there are kids involved. Either decision will have consequences for years. I am going to see a therapist who deals with spouses of BPD people, but are there other things that helped you make your decision? Journaling, talking to experts, anything else?
Title: Re: what are some ways to help decide? (therapist etc) Post by: almost789 on February 02, 2013, 07:10:07 PM .Hi momtara,
If I were married with children my decision to stay or go would depend on if he was accepting that he needs therapy. I would also consider how severe or at what level he was at with the disorder, how much and how often and what types of abuse you and/or your children are experiencing. Is he open to therapy? Title: Re: what are some ways to help decide? (therapist etc) Post by: Clearmind on February 03, 2013, 08:37:32 PM I don't know that any one thing can help make a decision momtara! Certainly a therapist will help you with a plan - my suggestion is to start with that and be open to what may come next.
Journaling is great - often we bottle up our feelings because we may be use to not feeling heard. Learning about personal values and boundaries to protect yourself are also a good start. Are you looking after yourself? Do you have a good support network - family, friends? Taking care of yourself and regaining some independence is important for anyone in a relationship - especially ones like these that have a tendency to be enmeshed. |