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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: cal644 on February 07, 2013, 12:29:24 PM



Title: How can I love you if I don't love myself
Post by: cal644 on February 07, 2013, 12:29:24 PM
When my soon to be ex UBPDW was splitting me black I asked her how can you not love me after 19 years (especially when it came out of nowhere).  Her answer was how can I love you if I don't love myself.  Any thoughts - this is just one of her comments that I keep going over and over in my mind.


Title: Re: How can I love you if I don't love myself
Post by: Newton on February 07, 2013, 12:37:32 PM
She has a valid point... .  self obsession and constant misery would hardly allow someone the emotional space to take into account a partners feelings... .