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Title: Confused - Anyone familiar with this type of therapy? Post by: Sammamish on February 07, 2013, 06:05:44 PM Hi All
My uBPDw has started seeing a T for her anger. Not sure if T is BPD-trained but my W told me yesterday that they were working on a technique called "Lifespan Integration". My W showed me this website www.lifespanintegration.com/. Anyone familiar with this? To date my wife hasn't opened up to me about her anger issues, so I see this as a fairly significant step, though we havent discussed anything about her past before - not sure if this is her tentatively wanting to discuss, I dont want to press the issue but want to support her if she is committed to this process. There is likely some sort of unresolved childhood trauma, as my W has previously mentioned possibility that her own mother was abused. Is anyone else familiar with this as a method of dealing with BPD? I think the T is trying it out with a view to using it every so often. I dont think its a long term intensive process like DBT. I should underline that BPD has not been discussed between us. Also, any general tips for encouragement/supporting SO's during therapy? I was prepared for leaving yesterday due to my wife's violence, and now this seems like a genuine cry for help on her part. Feeling conflicting emotions now of keeping myself self safe, while wanting to help my wife. She was curled up in bed last night like a scared child. Very upsetting. Not sure I could handle the guilt if I left under these circumstances. So confused. S Title: Re: Confused - Anyone familiar with this type of therapy? Post by: tuum est61 on February 08, 2013, 06:23:46 PM I don't know about the specific therapy of Lifespan Integration, but the fact your W is recognizing her rage is a problem, is excellent news. |iiii
Re support, if shes not raging or violent, support in all the ways you normally would - along with using the tools - detaching compassionately from and validating how she's feeling - as best as you can. I think you will definitely see a lot more darkness before the dawn, but do enjoy the calm. Keep your safety plan in mind and safety kit at hand. Title: Re: Confused - Anyone familiar with this type of therapy? Post by: Sammamish on February 10, 2013, 05:37:17 AM Thanks Tuum. Its a welcome step. but I'm looking for a real commitment to change, as I don't have much patience or energy anymore...
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