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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Cloudy Days on February 08, 2013, 01:36:45 PM



Title: Eating habbits
Post by: Cloudy Days on February 08, 2013, 01:36:45 PM
Ok, my husband has been so freaking awesome lately. And I mean awesome with lots of stress added that should have made him bonkers by now. He has been in Therapy for 7 months now and so I'm sure I can say some of his progress is because of that. But the other thing I noticed is that we have been doing the atkins diet for the past month. He hasn't had hardly any blow ups in the past month. I've seen small things here and there, and he did have a little fit yesterday but It was completly understandable and he stopped and apologised quickly. We watched the Dr. Oz show yesterday and they talked about people with rage and what could be causing it. One of the causes of rage is blood sugar getting too low from not eating. Since we have been on the Atkins diet he stomach is constantly full and his blood sugar isn't going up and down like usual. Could this be why he is being so calm lately? Seriously, I have been waiting for a blow up for weeks. I even accidentally left a pan on the stove the other day and left the house with it on. He got irritated but didn't blow up. That would have been a for sure blow up 2 months ago. Normally he would go all day without eating and wait for me to get home so I could cook him something. He does get verry irritated if he doesn't eat for long periods of time. Drives me nuts that he waits so long to eat only because i am not there to cook for him. He can snack on Deviled eggs or cheese on this diet so he ends up eating before I get home more often than not. Anyways I wondered if anyone has seen something similar or if it is actually the therapy.


Title: Re: Eating habbits
Post by: briefcase on February 08, 2013, 01:56:33 PM
I can get low blood sugar (hypoglycemia).  It can definitley cause some rage and also light headedness and other things.  Luckily, my mother also has it and recognized it in me pretty early and helped me learn how to control it (basically eat regularly).  In my case, it's easily controlled by diet. 

I'm not proud of this (and don't recommend it) . . . but when things were bad in my marriage I would sometimes intentionally not eat so that I could try to go toe to toe with my wife's rage when we were arguing.  Even in a hypoglycemic fueled rage, I wasn't any match for her.     It wasn't pretty.


Anyway, for many years I assumed (incorrectly) that my wife's rages were also caused by low blood sugar, and I would often ask her if she was hungry when she went into a rage.  Although I think my wife probably has a little low blood sugar, that was not really her problem--and asking her if she was hungry eventually became a trigger that made her more angry. 

Being aware of this condition is a good thing, because when people have low blood sugar it's definitely easier to get triggered and angry (and very quickly).  Whenever I mention "taking care of yourself" I always mention "eating right" as a way to do this because of my experience with low blood sugar.  By extension, eating right and having wholesome foods and meals is good for everyone, including people with BPD!