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Title: How to move on Post by: cal644 on February 10, 2013, 07:43:20 AM After 19 years together - how do I get through the day when the person I want in my life doesn't want me in hers.
Title: Re: How to move on Post by: Rose Tiger on February 10, 2013, 10:17:13 AM Number one suggestion is therapy with someone skilled in trauma recovery. That helps with step one, Acknowledgment - we being by acknowledging and working with our feelings. Therapy lays out some groundwork with this one.
Grieving goes by quicker if you involve the senses, wrap up in a soft blanket, light a scented candle, play soothing music, sight, sound, touch. Eat comforting healthy food, taste. I would soak in a tub with epsom salts. That sort of thing, taking gentle good care of yourself. This workshop might be helpful for you... . TOOLS: Exiting a BPD relationship [romantic partners] (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61980.0) Title: Re: How to move on Post by: seeking balance on February 10, 2013, 11:22:10 AM After 19 years together - how do I get through the day when the person I want in my life doesn't want me in hers. Hi Cal, Denial is such a hard place in the grief process. I remember for several month after my ex moved out, I thought maybe this wasn't over. I would say to others it was over, but in my heart - I would have gone back in a minute. Only after she removed all of our joint funds did I accept I would need to file for a divorce. 19 years is a very long time - it is going to take you some time for this to sink in... . that is normal Cal. What are you doing for YOU right now? Exercise, friends, therapy? |