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Title: breastfeeding and a suspect BPD husband Post by: Silkroad on February 10, 2013, 01:43:01 PM i have given birth 13 days ago, all went well, and all of a sudden my BPDH became a nice person again and supported me during labour until the day i got home. (3 days after) after 2 stormy days, he became nince again until Fri when he seems to be so cross because baby is loosing weight and i will have to top her up with formula. (one of my main jobs is to work as a breastfeeding helper parttime in a local hospital) he must be feeling my pain in not being able to full breastfeed, that's why he reacts against me. (has been doing all the cooking and cleaning for 5 days and looking after our older son who is 4, until he disregulated and is shouting and swearing at me and all the house work help has also stopped). I was also unable to full nurse my older son. Had to top up and he is from the same relationship.
to day the verdict was that i should top up with formula - the midwife said as baby is not gaining enough weight. But has anybody been there and think the pressure of a BPD in the house drained the milk? any mums with some light to shed in my situation? Title: Re: breastfeeding and a suspect BPD husband Post by: Dawning on February 10, 2013, 02:25:24 PM I am not from staying, but think with having breastfed 5 children, I can give you some tips.
Let Baby drink both breasts every feeding. Feed as often as you can, for the more baby drinks , the more milk will be produced. Drink a lot yourself, especially tea from warming , sweet seeds like fennel and anise. Those seeds stimulate milk production. And yes, I do believe stress can have a negative result on milk production. Wish you and baby all the best. Title: Re: breastfeeding and a suspect BPD husband Post by: Cardinals in Flight on February 10, 2013, 02:39:53 PM I'm sorry this is happening to you right now. Stress can indeed hamper your milk from becoming fully available.
Make sure you're trying to feed in a comfortable, stress free (if possible) room at least, and as has been said, drinking as much as possible. Sleep when the baby sleeps, if your hub isn't doing household chores they'll just have to wait. Taking care of the baby and yourself, is paramount. Do you have anyone who could come help you? A good friend you could call to come sit while you take a shower, or a nap? You've had a C-section, you'll need your rest to build up your strength and its not unusal for your milk to be slow after a section. I hope your hub would be able to see the help that you need everyday and not sporadically. (()) CiF ps, all babies loose a little weight after birth, and it's also very ok to supplement with formula if you have to, don't beat yourself up for that :) |