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Title: Obsessing over Work Instead of ExGf Post by: nowwhatz on February 13, 2013, 02:48:01 PM Ok so I was with the T yesterday and discussed things going on with me and ongoing work "drama."
After I explained what I was doing related to work the T said it sounded like I was obsessing over the work drama instead of the exgf. (as opposed to the prior recycle where I meted down and obsessed over the exgf). The T also suggested that I am now trying to control or "fix" things with work that I have little or zero control over... . almost like I have redirected my rescuing/problem solving behavior away from the gf and to the work drama... . but the behavior is the same. Of course the T said that all of that was a waste of time and energy for me. Has anyone else gone through detachment by over-focusing or obsessing over another area in their lives? Title: Re: Obsessing over Work Instead of ExGf Post by: Rose Tiger on February 13, 2013, 03:29:19 PM Could be on to something. I find there are two things going on new with me at work. All those months in the fog, I couldn't concentrate real well on work stuff. So now I'm sharper and more in tune with work stuff. Second, when I was feeling so low and down on myself, everyone else tended to take that view too. It's a matter of rebuilding my work rep and changing how people view me. Having the focus there versus ex's latest silent treatment is healthier. I don't pay much attention to gossip or that sort of thing, don't care.
What exactly is your focus at work, what do you mean by drama? |