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In about 15 days, I'm supposed to close on a house.  I was buying a house near my at-that-time-girlfriend (maybe ten seconds away by car).  Last Saturday she wanted a "break" (not see other people though - or so she said).  I said no, we need a break-up.  Aside from her having her daughter call me (vmail as I would not answer) and one inter-office communication (she initiated, basically inquiring about my daughter and explaining why her daughter called the previous day, I was cordial and brief), we've been NC.  I have had a couple wrong numbers into my office (beep and immediate hang up; no way to determine if it was her though but I've been there for years and very rarely have "wrong numbers" via inter-office calls).

I've contacted a real estate attorney and was basically told I cannot get myself out of this closing.  Only one possible way and that's if the appraisal comes in low.  I've been praying daily for that to happen.  I will know next week.

If the house appraises -- I will have to buy it.  Should I move in?

I would be able to go home without ever seeing her and her house.  For her though, she would have to ride by my house at least four times a day.

I think with time, I won't care that she lives down the road.  In a couple of months, I'll be much better healed. 

I see her at work all the time - and I've been able to keep NC on my part.  I'm just wondering what happens when she knows I live there and I'm still NC.

What a pickle.  I really like the house and it's a good move for me financially.  I was really hoping being close to her, but not living with her, would help.  What a mess I have gotten myself into.

I read your post quickly and may not have gleaned the nuances of your situation, but from what I did gather, you have no choice (unless the appraisal falls through).

It certainly doesn't sound ideal to live so close when you are striving for NC (ex. hard to take a walk, bike ride, etc. without fear of passing her on the street); however, you said you work together and have succeeded thus far.

So, I think you are stuck financially with this house.  Sending strength that you are able to maintain NC even while living a few houses down.  My h and I are separated (I've moved in with my parents), but we work together too.