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Title: Improving
Post by: Mountaineagle on February 16, 2013, 04:13:29 PM
Today I have done drastic changes in my appearance. I have cut my really long hair at a hair saloon and I have shaven off my "depression" beard. Last year when I became depressed I grew a beard and I have been waiting for the "right" opportunity, it was supposed to be a ritual when I was "fully" recovered. Today I just thought why not. And I look really handsome if I must say so myself :) This last week now I have been on a vacation and I have treated myself to a massage and really good food. And I have started a new hobby. I bought computer parts and plan on building myself a brand new computer, have never done that before and I can't wait until I can start building next week when I return home. I used to care so much about appearance, and would deny my inner geek. No more denial. Giving myself treats has helped immensely on my mood. Not immediately but now when I sum up I am proud of myself. I am so changed on the inside so why not on the outside?   


Title: Re: Improving
Post by: dharmagems on February 16, 2013, 05:00:55 PM
Great to hear Eagle!

Why not the outside? I bet it feels so good to do these things for yourself.  I am inspired for my road to recovery by you!  I bet you look spiffy, and the computer building is a great project to focus on. Yes, little things add up.  I'm going to think of ways to treat myself little by little.  You're an inspiration!

dharmagems


Title: Re: Improving
Post by: Changed4safety on February 16, 2013, 05:36:44 PM
Thank you for providing the final push for me to go get my hair cut and recolored.  I'd been dragging my feet citing money issues (which are real) but... .  I always feel so much better afterwards.  I have medium brown hair and am toying with coloring it RED, lol!  I'm going to go next week! |iiii


Title: Re: Improving
Post by: trouble11 on February 16, 2013, 06:01:08 PM
Too funny ... .  Cut about 8" of mine hair on Superbowl Sunday.  I didn't want to spend the money either, so had a friend that used to cut hair do it.  She did a pretty great job.