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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: nothinleft on February 20, 2013, 12:38:35 AM



Title: Something More Than PBD
Post by: nothinleft on February 20, 2013, 12:38:35 AM
The severety of My BPDW's forgetting and missunderstanding seem to be going beyond BPD. Also, over the past 4 years, her escalating confusion, irrationality, anger, and loss of reality has now progressed to be a constant norm for most of her waking hours, whether they be at at 3am or 2pm or whenever her irradic sleep patterns allow her to wake up. The obvious unworkability of how and what she is trying to do is creating the same unlivable completely cluttered enviornment that brought her demons to the fore in the first place, and once again have become the trigger for a now almost intollerable mindset for us both. Under her insistant beligerance she is begining to do some very foolish things, such getting into a a one car accident and soon after backing into a sign. No injuries, just car damage but I can no longer allow her to drive because of the many dangers involved.  Even more troubling is that she cancelled difficult to arainge appointents with therapy, other specialists and her PA. These appoitntments took me weeks to arrainge. She pleaded with me to make them for her because she was in such tremendous difficulties and realized it was beyond her abilities due to her confusion. Since I have POA, I gladly accepted, told her about what was planned and she happily agreed. Then the "wheels came off" and because of her then despising me she cancelled all of these hard to get  appointments. I spent a great deal of time and effort advising them of her history and what it has now resulted in, and with that input (which she never really shared fully with any doctor) a carefully orchestrated  treatment plan was then setup by the pyhsicians to address her specific ungent needs. Well, not only did she cancel, she did it in a way that "burned her bridged", so it became more even difficult, bit I did managed to get them back. Thank goodness they understood... .  anyone relate? I can not fatham that this type of loss of reality and the danger it has resulted in is simply and benign enough to be treated as PBP or is it  considered serious enough that a more aggresive approach considered.    nothinleft