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Title: Fed up every day Post by: laelle on February 20, 2013, 12:42:50 PM My bf goes through a very dark time sometimes. He has been in the mood for weeks now. Everyday I say good morning, how are you and he says tired and fed up. He is distant and I know the drill while he is like this. I really dont understand how someone can be Fed up every single day of their lives. I have bad things going on too. I mean dont people in prison still try to find something in their life that is good?
I poked a little bit trying to get him to talk to me. I mean where I come from being fed up means the situation is so bad that it has to end. He never ends it so it confuses me. Maybe there is a different definition of this word in the UK. Maybe it means the same as being tired of the day to day grind. Anyway, I digress. I tried to ask him what would make him happy, I mean if he is fed up so much of his life does it not make since to find out what does make you happy? I know this sounds like I was being passive agressive with him, but it wasnt. I am doing that as a vent to you guys. He asked me wth was I talking about and that he is just under pressure and tired. I know I have to drop it now and I so want to drop it. I asked a question and he answered it. Fair enough. I still fear that because I mentioned it at an off moment for him im going to get something wildly close to snotty back in my face. I can handle this. Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: laelle on February 20, 2013, 02:59:29 PM Well what do you know. I dropped it and didnt JADE. He forgot to find a reason to not like what I said.
Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: TigerEye on February 20, 2013, 03:49:57 PM Good for you laelle, here's one back for you
Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: waverider on February 20, 2013, 06:14:18 PM Worrying about how the "may" react, can drain us just as much as the reality.
Learn how to not live your life reactively Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: elemental on February 21, 2013, 12:54:45 AM Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: laelle on February 21, 2013, 01:23:27 AM Tiger- thank you
Ele- thanks chick Waverider - Right on then. This will be my next lesson to learn. I feel a big change from my reaction yesterday from my used to be reactions. Instead of sitting and making myself feel awful about what fire I could have just fed, I found something else to focus my attention on, and thought to myself... . if he doest like it, he'll get over it because i wont fight about it. Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: waverider on February 21, 2013, 03:00:14 PM |iiii
It will do your self confidence wonders Title: Re: Fed up every day Post by: Grey Kitty on February 22, 2013, 07:23:33 AM I still fear that because I mentioned it at an off moment for him im going to get something wildly close to snotty back in my face. I can handle this. |iiii Yes you can handle it. Great progress! Well what do you know. I dropped it and didnt JADE. He forgot to find a reason to not like what I said. |iiii You said you could handle it! You did! Reminds me of what I've read 'round here a bunch of times: "Nothing changes without [myself making] changes" The positive side of that is that when you do make changes... . things CAN change, and often do for the better! Keep up the good work! |