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Title: burnout Post by: screwedovr on February 22, 2013, 11:16:59 AM Do BPDs ever just burn out, kinda get tired of changing themselves with new relationships, always putting on an act. Or do they just get worse and angrier with every failed relationship
Title: Re: burnout Post by: hithere on February 22, 2013, 02:50:43 PM Mine also had AHDD, she seemed to never get tired... . she could fight like a crazy dog for hours and hours and then start a new fight.
I actually think they are invigorated by the crazy making, that is how it seemed with my ex. Title: Re: burnout Post by: susanleona on February 22, 2013, 03:04:29 PM They just rewrite their mental history, make up a woe me story in their head for the next one (and really believe it too), and stay chipper!
Title: Re: burnout Post by: RedCandle on February 22, 2013, 03:11:29 PM Typically, the "cure" for burnout is to change things up... .
... . change your job, your exercise routine, your schedule... . Hence we see BPD's QUICKLY "change out" their relationships. Get a new one. And get it fast. And so they avoid the burnout... . Title: Re: burnout Post by: seeking balance on February 22, 2013, 03:36:11 PM Typically, the "cure" for burnout is to change things up... . ... . change your job, your exercise routine, your schedule... . Hence we see BPD's QUICKLY "change out" their relationships. Get a new one. And get it fast. And so they avoid the burnout... . I want to stress this is very true. When things calm down (let's face it, we all justified behavior on some circumstance or another) this is when we tend to see the worst of the maladaptive coping. If there is chaos, having to deal with real feelings is not the focus. So, why not keep chaos going? A relationship tends to last when the non is just as OK with chaos as the pwBPD... . nons get burned out, pwBPD who are not in treatment tend to thrive in change. They may say they don't, but look at their actions. Title: Re: burnout Post by: struggli on February 22, 2013, 05:10:04 PM Typically, the "cure" for burnout is to change things up... . ... . change your job, your exercise routine, your schedule... . Hence we see BPD's QUICKLY "change out" their relationships. Get a new one. And get it fast. And so they avoid the burnout... . I want to stress this is very true. When things calm down (let's face it, we all justified behavior on some circumstance or another) this is when we tend to see the worst of the maladaptive coping. If there is chaos, having to deal with real feelings is not the focus. So, why not keep chaos going? A relationship tends to last when the non is just as OK with chaos as the pwBPD... . nons get burned out, pwBPD who are not in treatment tend to thrive in change. They may say they don't, but look at their actions. My ex said she was a "creature of habit." ahahhahahahahhaahhahahahhahahha The habit of inconsistency perhaps. Title: Re: burnout Post by: screwedovr on February 23, 2013, 09:53:37 AM thanks for your responses, my xw definitely jumped right into the next relatioship. Her BPD symptoms really went haywire as her 40th b-day got closer. Guess thats why she left me for a more exciting 30 yr old. She always was bored with everyday family life. Always wanted to constantly do things out of our financial means. She showed me! Now She gets a ton of my money every month and the new guys money.
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