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Hi just ruminating today, but can anyone tell me, seeing as they are stuck with the emotions of a young child,

can they be jealous of a younger child in the picture?

I only ask because I have a young grandchild, and my expwuBPD, has made coomments about how much I love the little one, and I also saw a difference in his behaviour after I sent him pics of me with the little one,told him exciting things we had done together during the day, etc. Looking back now, I can sort of see a pattern, I told him of my adventures, he then would be a bit distant and cold.

Anyone else have this?

As far as i know they can yes, even animals and objects.

Mine used to get annoyed that i played a video game, now i would understand if i played it alot and never gave her attention, but the fact is I only got to play about and hour or 2 a week, apparently that was too much.

I've seen grown men and women, feel jealous or threatened over a parent or primary caregiver's bond with a child in blended families etc,  quite a lot. That dynamic is the bases for stories like Cinderella, SnowWhite... , and the archetype of the evil wicked step mother and seems to be a prevalent theme. I don't know that it's specific to BPD, but perhaps emotional immaturity or neediness in general?

agree, mine was jealous of the cat and my kids, even her own kids... .  

He showed his jealousy of my kids (esp one with disabilities) by almost completely ignoring them and sabotaging anytime they were in the spotlight with his bad moods.  He never had any interest in my kids and very little interest in his own kids or family, except if it somehow made him look good at the moment.

Peterpan,

ABSOLUTELY! They/my ex would be jealous of people, children, activities, concepts, objects, hobbies... .  You name it! She dislikes things that I would like that she is not the source of. She would feel either threatened that the attention would be taken away from her or that she is not the source of my joy. I should be miserable without her. She would be jealous of me liking a friend or a sport that I do. The fear of abandonment is so great she pathologically believes I may lose interest in her to a sport/activity. She's even threatened by a sexual preference that I would have. She usually combats any of the above by having her own equal interest. It's a power struggle to them and they constantly feel inadequate. Forever miserable. Will not change.

One of the things my stb uBPDw told me  is how she resented me spending more time with my daughter and practicing softball (pretty much daily but before my wife came home from work).  Since we are a competative team - we have quite a few practices and our weekends are busy.  My wife said that is one of the reasons she started her EA by texting during the games because I wasn't with her (heck I'm the coach).  It runs deep within them.