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I'm debating finding a therapist.

But I'm not sure what are good questions to ask. Is there by chance a work sheet I missed? 'cause the ones I found online aren't specific to finding someone who works with nons or seem outdated... .  or doesn't seem to understand that when someone lacks boundaries and has been conditioned often to deal with stress by agreeing. >.<;; I need a better list of questions.

I also find it a bit difficult since the last three didn't work out (various times of my life).

First one didn't listen to me (was "family therapy" with a love and relationship therapist whom my mom hired to confirm everything was OK. Yup, ignored me when I told him it was not OK.) Second, my mom made the therapist believe her (before I figured out what my mom's behavior was indicative of) and as a result was convinced I had learning disabilities (See the magic ), and the third one had boundary issues which really didn't help me since I'm still struggling with setting good boundaries. I did learn a lot from the third one, but at some point she was making my issues worse... .  but saying no was hard... .  I did eventually get out, though.

So obviously, I need to be better informed about what to ask and look for.

Hi DesertChild,

Great that you are looking for a therapist again! I relate to your struggle, before I found my current T who is awesome, I had a mediocre one, I would often leave feeling frustrated, wondering why she didn't delve deeper into things. So I ended it and found another.

I don't know about a therapist interview sheet, but for me I just explained my dissatisfaction with my last one, and said I was looking for going in deeper, and I wanted someone familiar with psychotherapy. Remember You are paying them, They are providing a service to you, it is totally okay to be upfront and honest. And most importantly I believe it is how you click with  them, the relationship.

So go for it, be as honest as you can, and feel it out.

Let us know how you go!

Love Blazing Star