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I've read where people with BPD are generally very talented and artistic people with many of them being writers and artists. 

My ex BPD was an amazing writer and wrote wonderful poetry and short stories.  In packing his belongings to move him out, I ran across an "idea for a story" which he wrote a long time ago.  It literally sent chills down my body.  The potential titles he was considering were "Never Good Enough" or "Too Good to be True".  The main character was a good lucking guy who could get any women he wanted but he always finds something about her he doesn't like and hence another failed relationship.  After talking with his friends, it's decided that he would pick up two women and date them and ultimately decide on the one he likes the best and devote all his love and attention to her.  Well, after dating both girls he decides there is something that between the two they have everything he has ever wanted in a relationship.  He loves in love with both but finds the double life too hard because of all the secrecy.  He then goes on to see that since he is ARROGANT he figures that if both girls care about him, they will somehow understand.  As he outlines more of the story, he says that the girls start to realize that he isn't all that great and they begin to see endless faults in him.  The name of the main character is a common name but interesting next to the name he wrote his name next to it in parenthesis... .  

Is it just me or does that not speak volumes about his inner feelings... .  it speaks from his soul.   When I read that it really hit me to a core.  My ex BPD was secretly maintaining an emotional intimacy relationship with his previous "married" girlfriend.  I wasn't about to "understand"... .  he demonized me.  I kicked him out and I have no doubt he is back to idolizing his previous girlfriend. 

The triangulation (read definition) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0) aspect is pretty weird.  The way it plays out is the main character bad mouths about someone else, gets sympathy.  Then badmouths to the person he was badmouthing to someone else and gets sympathy.  So who will he contact to badmouth about previous gf?  After he gets done badmouthing you to her to get sympathy.  Is having the triangle "too good to be true" and unsustainable?

My family was (is) that way, pick a scapegoat and badmouth them behind their back to feel superior.  Very passive/aggressive and dysfunctional. 

Rose Tiger, Yes, who will he go to next after he's done with his next victim.

Btw, the conclusion of the story is that the main character gets dumped by both girls... .  surprise, surprise! 

He was writing his own life story... .  

That's the story all right. When I met my ex he was going steady with two women and he had a collection of extra's on the side. I found that out a couple of years later. At the time I thought he was single. He must have thought I was his best bet at the time. But you can never be perfect enough for a BPD (w/NPD traits)  man. My ex tried something similar to the solution described in the story. At a certain point he told me "You don't know it yet, but you're going to be a concubine". He was trying to brainwash me that it was OK for him to have other women as long as he came home like a good husband. When that didn't work he became more abusive. And in the end I left. I broke up with him two months ago. For him the story begins again. By now he must be going steady with one or two women and he'll have a collection of extra's on the side.