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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: crashintome on March 03, 2013, 10:46:46 AM



Title: Update...
Post by: crashintome on March 03, 2013, 10:46:46 AM
So, I contacted her mother.  I don't want to be overly specific, as I think her mom may find her way here.

Her mom, before I said ANYTHING, told me she thinks L has BPD.  I was floored.  You could have picked my jaw up off of the floor.  It just reinforced to me that it's true and L has a actual, legitimate disease.  And, rather than wanting to run further away, it made me want to help her even more.  It made my heart hurt for her - knowing she has a mental illness and no one is able to help her.  I'm very sad for her.

I found out some things, things that matter to me but I'm not willing to just put out there on a forum, that made me realize she and I can never be.  It hurts.  It hurts a lot. 


Title: Re: Update...
Post by: blecker on March 03, 2013, 12:59:36 PM
I'm sorry it hurts but I believe the hurt you feel now pales to what hurt you would feel later.

Let her find the help she needs.