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Title: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: jaird on March 10, 2013, 05:42:13 PM I found this very helpful, more helpful than just reading other people's thread and laments(?)
https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a109.htm Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: Cumulus on March 10, 2013, 06:01:13 PM Hi jaird, this is such a helpful link. Thanks for bringing it up again, I needed another read.
Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: Clearmind on March 10, 2013, 06:02:20 PM jaird, I found it prudent to my healing - I realized pretty quickly that my r/s was a fantasy for both my ex and I - neither are to blame.
Cumulus and jaird - Which part of the article struck you and why? Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: jaird on March 10, 2013, 07:26:08 PM jaird, I found it prudent to my healing - I realized pretty quickly that my r/s was a fantasy for both my ex and I - neither are to blame. Cumulus and jaird - Which part of the article struck you and why? I think the whole article struck me. It did explain a lot. Out of the list of about 9 beliefs, I think I suffer(ed) from 8 of them. I was very hung up on the soulmate issue, and that this woman idolized me. I truly believed we would be together forever, and I truly wanted-if not to "save" her, at least love her and I believed my love and being there would help her through her issues/illness. Guess I was wrong. Live and learn. Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: Clearmind on March 10, 2013, 07:32:59 PM Oh yes - I get that completely. I was hell bent on saving I lost myself in the process.
Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: jaird on March 10, 2013, 07:37:24 PM Oh yes - I get that completely. I was hell bent on saving I lost myself in the process. Yes, I am lost too. Like wandering in a fog. My ex awakened me sexually, and I thank her for that, but that is also resulting in the loss of my marriage. I just can't stay in a dead marriage and be content after the amazing relationship, real or imagined, I had with the ex. My therapist called my life a gray background, and the ex as technicolor. And he is right. Title: Re: Great BPDFamily thread/resource Post by: GreenMango on March 10, 2013, 07:53:16 PM I like that workshop too!
No.2 - well all of them really. Good pick |iiii |