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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: paperlung on March 18, 2013, 10:04:57 PM



Title: She left me for a man from another country
Post by: paperlung on March 18, 2013, 10:04:57 PM
If I had known for sure sooner she had BPD, I would've posted here. This originally went down back in December. This girl is very, very ill.


- 21-year-old GF leaves me for a 40-year-old man from England (she lives in Canada)

- After one day with him (he flew here to see her) she calls me and says she made a mistake/misses me/wants me back

- A week and a bit later he leaves and then she starts to miss him

- I tell her I've had enough and then walk

- He flies back here a day or two later

- A few days after that she starts to text/phone/email me asking for my help

- He leaves again and the plan is for me to help her get help and try and "fix" things between us

- A month and a bit later she starts talking to some guy from Utah; now she wants to meet him.

- I tell her I'm done for good. I change my phone number/delete my email address... .  she can no longer get a hold of me.

- 5 days later she calls my house and my mom talks to her. She says she went to the doctor and got diagnosed with BPD. Said she just called to let me know I was right (I was telling her for a long time that I thought she might have it).

- Mom asks her if she is going on with this new long-distance relationship; she says she is. I think he may of even came up here to visit her already (it's a 14 hour drive apparently).