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Title: This Weekend Post by: Mightyhammers on March 28, 2013, 10:09:08 AM The closer it creeps up on me, the more Im dreading it – we have a 4 day weekend here in the UK, and although I have a few things planned ( tonight for example ), I just cannot wait to get it over and done with as I can just see myself dwelling on things especially as she took pleasure in telling me she will be spending it staying just a few miles away but is adamant she doesn’t want to see or speak to me anymore. Sorry Im just venting lol I just wish she didn’t have this control over me!
Title: Re: This Weekend Post by: HarmKrakow on March 29, 2013, 07:04:48 AM Yip, this weekend is gonna suck, while our BPDs others will spend this time with others, because you can say one thing, they likely won't spend it alone...
Title: Re: This Weekend Post by: Want2know on March 29, 2013, 07:15:27 AM The reality of what your ex's are doing this weekend probably doesn't match up with how you are anticipating it.
Realistically, they may have moments of when they are feeling ok, but you know there will be some drama or misery that they are engulfed in, and relay upon the others around them. Is that something your really want to be a part of still? By focusing on what they are doing, and setting your expectation of the weekend to be horrible for you, what good is this doing for you? We talk a lot about self-soothing on Personal Inventory, and what things you can do to soothe yourself when you are feeling low. What are some things you can do that will make you feel good this weekend? How about focusing on that? Title: Re: This Weekend Post by: HarmKrakow on March 29, 2013, 07:49:06 AM The reality of what your ex's are doing this weekend probably doesn't match up with how you are anticipating it. Realistically, they may have moments of when they are feeling ok, but you know there will be some drama or misery that they are engulfed in, and relay upon the others around them. Is that something your really want to be a part of still? By focusing on what they are doing, and setting your expectation of the weekend to be horrible for you, what good is this doing for you? We talk a lot about self-soothing on Personal Inventory, and what things you can do to soothe yourself when you are feeling low. What are some things you can do that will make you feel good this weekend? How about focusing on that? You let them control your head because there is not enough distraction to replace it, and we just need a little to keep it through the day and therefore slightly heal through the process. Unfortunately i still have the flu, so watching/reading stuff on the laptop in bed and do a little game here or there on a tablet. Haven't heard sh!t from the family what they do in regards of easter and i aint anticipating any calls from them either. Only 'happy easter' I got ... is ... yeah ... from my BPD ex. Title: Re: This Weekend Post by: LuckyEscapee on March 29, 2013, 11:25:48 PM Happy Easter HarmKrakow
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