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Title: Is there a book that could help me? Post by: pink_heart44 on March 28, 2013, 02:40:07 PM I have a loving a very understanding fiance'. He is the one that has given me the courage and strength to set boundaries with my uBPD mom. I have noticed thought that it is difficult for me to verbally communicate with him. I have that problem with basically everyone but it means the most that it's with him. He is the only healthy romantic relationship that I have had. And to be honest that scares me a bit because I have no idea how to be in a healthy relationship.
Is there a book that could help me better understand the affect my uBPD mom has had on me and how that carries through to other relationships? And how to deal with that? Title: Re: Is there a book that could help me? Post by: Kwamina on March 28, 2013, 02:59:57 PM Hi there,
Have you read Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Ann Lawson? This is a very good book about what it's like growing up with a BPD mom and how this affects you. Another good book is Surviving a Borderline Parent by Kimberlee Roth and Freda B. Friedman. Title: Re: Is there a book that could help me? Post by: pink_heart44 on March 28, 2013, 03:16:43 PM I have Understanding the Borderline Mother. And I love it. it has helped me a lot but it doesn't really touch on how to deal with the affect on how growing up with her instability has on other relationships in my life.
Title: Re: Is there a book that could help me? Post by: Kwamina on March 28, 2013, 04:17:45 PM I understand where you're coming from. I use this book along side the book 'Feeling Good'. Understanding the BPD mom has given me a lot of insight and the other book has helped me overcome a lot of the emotional and spiritual damage. You might find the book Shame & Guilt by Jane Middelton-Moz interesting too. It's about abused children in general and contains a list of charecteristics of adults shamed as kids and how this affects them in their adult relationships.
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