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Title: Sexual abuse Post by: whereisthezen on March 31, 2013, 10:39:44 AM How many of you know if your SO experienced childhood sexual abuse?
Mine did. Doesn't mention it at all though. Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: patientandclear on March 31, 2013, 11:48:35 AM Mine did. I am certain it is a cause of his instinct that anyone who wants to get close to him is going to harm him or has a hidden agenda.
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: grad on March 31, 2013, 09:02:16 PM my uBPDex and her 1 y/o older sister were both physically and sexually abused by their step-father between 4-7
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: Hiloguy on March 31, 2013, 09:11:06 PM Mine was sexually abused by her father and has three years missing from her childhood memory. Her sister was the one that told me.
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: cal644 on March 31, 2013, 09:14:19 PM Mine had sexual abuse from 18 months - 1st grade almost daily and in every way imaginable from an older boy her mom babysat for - I have a feeling that something more happened. I did not find out about any of this until she had a breakdown 15 years into our marriage. She has also told me I only know 1/10th of what her chidhood was like - and what I know is bad enough. :'(
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: elessar on March 31, 2013, 09:24:04 PM yup. mine did at the hands of 5 of her uncles for 3 years - age 9 to 12.
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: pixiepie on March 31, 2013, 09:27:48 PM mine didn't but I did. He expresses rage on the one had about this happening 'to me' and on the other is completely insensitive about the emotional damage. I have been told however that his sisters allege sexual abuse from their dad but he says he doesn't beleive it.
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: blecker on April 01, 2013, 11:56:29 AM Yes she did. Late adolesence, early teens.
She somehow still craved his approval until he died. Tragic how illness breeds illness. What can break such chains? Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: rogerroger on April 01, 2013, 12:50:51 PM Sexual abuse is thought to be a very common factor in the development of personality disorders. In the case of my BPD-x2b, it was impossible to determine whether she was abused, since she told so many lies about her abusive childhood that the truth couldn't be reliably distinguished from all the lies.
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: whereisthezen on April 01, 2013, 03:45:19 PM Thanks for all the comments/feedback. Since most confirm SA is a major contributor, do you ever wonder how some survivors manage not to have BPD and actually seek therapy when they cannot get past such a horrible event?
Title: Re: Sexual abuse Post by: daze on April 01, 2013, 05:24:22 PM My pwBPD told me a couple of months ago that he was abused by a teenage female babysitter at a very young age. As in under 4 or 5. He told me the story and said he didn't consider it sexual abuse or molestation. Very disturbing.
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