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Today marks the 9th year since I gained freedom from my abusive uBPDparents.

Nine years ago this evening, uBPBm tried to kill me by beating me as I sat at my son's computer desk. uBPDf came into the room and pulled uBPDm off of me, pinning her arms down, falling back onto my son's bed as she yelled "let me go, let me at her". uBPDf said nothing to me as I fled the room. As I was not allowed to lock the door of any room I was in (including the bathroom), I knew it would be a only a matter of time before she came into my room... .   and she did. I did something I hadn't done after previous beatings (none as severe as this one). As soon as she said her apology "sorry I had to hit you but I didn't like the look on your face", I screamed at her (first time) to get out of my room and pushed her until she left the room and closed the door. I was so sick of being beaten. I was 43 years old. I had been kidnapped with my 20 month old and 1 week old and forced to divorce the love of my life. I had lived with uBPDparents for 16 years. I had lost my job in a law firm, I had gained 75 pounds, my health was really bad. I had given up on life and didn't think I'd get out of that house alive.

Then, a wonderful thing happened. My DD called and asked me, "did grandma beat you?" First time anyone had ever acknowledged to me that uBPDm beat me. I answered yes and she said she was going to call the police.

Police came. Long story short, they helped me pack and the kids and I walked out of the prison doors of uBPDparent's home and I never went back. Sadly, our son did move back in with them within 3 months, but he is now a college graduate and living nowhere near the grandparents.

I am thankful to be free from evil, to be alive, the blessing to know the difference between sanity and insanity/abuse and love.

By the way, I lost the 75 pounds, my health is better and 9 years ago this August I remarried the love of my life and his love has been the most healing for me of any relationship I've had.

Hi survivorof2,

I'm very sorry for the abuse you went through. No one deserves that. How are you doing now? I know anniversaries can be hard sometimes.   It's so good to hear that you were able to get out and experience love, peace, and freedom. The healing work you've done is fantastic!  |iiii You survived and now are learning to thrive. Good job, my dear.

What do you think are the most healing and beautiful things you've encountered since? Take care. Sending you lots of caring and support.