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I am convinced my boyfriend has BPD as I posted in this topic: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=198648.new

Well, we Havnt really dated in a month. We have only seen each other a few times since March 20th. The last few times we did see each other he was filled with an absolute rage toward me. He attacked me every way possible. He attacked my looks. He told me I was stupid, etc, etc,.

So he lives with his cousin. I went over Friday night while my boyfriend was at work to pick up some of my things. I went in my ex's bedroom. I noticed he has every love letter, every stuffed animal, every trinket I ever gave him, put away and neatly organized. Not only that, he has a picture of us we took together, hanging on his only mirror. So he has to look at our picture everyday. He still keeps all my stuff.

Is this normal even after devaluation?

? :s

My exBPD would keep everything of her ex boyfriends even myself. I recently logged onto fb after a year and I saw about 250 pictures of us. All the exes were the worst men possible and now I'm probably also included in that line up. I once logged onto her fb while with her and saw intimate photos on her private album of us as well as her other 3 exes. I'm not sure what it means, perhaps it's to keep good memories alive. Perhaps it's to make the next person feel as if they have to compete against you. Perhaps it's their form of love, or perhaps it's their version of preserving the good moments of the relationship before the crazy rollercosster ride that is BPD but that would mean that they are well aware of their destructive behavior.

Its because they don't attach values to it like we normal NONs do. It doesn't trigger them the way it triggers us, as it triggered u to open this topic.