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Title: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: cal644 on April 11, 2013, 02:13:35 PM I know this might be a trivial question to post here especially when so many people are dealing with important issues related to their children- but since my UBPDw and I have split she has been a pain - especially about money and expenses. So here is my question - her car now needs a repair - and she feels that since the divorce is not final I should be responsible for 1/2 of it. If that is the case am I allowed to charge her 1/2 of my car expenses or 1/2 of the house expenses? Also, out of the goodness of my heart I have been paying 100% of our daughters auto insurance and 100% of both our daughters cell phone bills (we have true 50-50 joint custody) - so if she persists with this or has her attorney contact mine - should I be allowed to do the same with those expenses? I would never consider asking her to pay 1/2 of my car expenses - since the divorce process everything for her is about money,money, money. I know stupid question but I feel I was justified telling her that her car was listed as her asset - so I should not be required to pay for that - just as the house is under my asset - and I don't expect her to pay any of those bills.
Title: Re: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: broken3 on April 11, 2013, 02:31:09 PM cal,
Just went through the same thing. She is driving all the time. She is responsible for all insurance and repairs. Including inspection and registration. With regard to the cell bills and any additional monies spent on the kids where she gets a benefit. Make sure you log every dime. Once the divorce is finalized and equitable distribution is calculated. The courts will deduct 50% of those bills from her settlement. You may be surprised how fast it adds up. Title: Re: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: hell0kitty on April 11, 2013, 02:41:03 PM When I was getting divorced I was told that the only thing I was not allowed to do was kick him off of my insurance until after the divorce was final. But day to day expenses, unless she was a stay at home mom and relied solely on you for years and years, I can't imagine you are required to pay for anything that is not court ordered.
While waiting in court for our turn a few weeks back, I watched a lady ahead of us asking for something very similar, because she had never worked and depended completely on her husband's income. He was giving her $4000 per month in spousal support for rent and bills, paying the lease on her Lexus and her BMW and her attorney was upset because he wasn't paying extra for gas too. The $4k was "barely covering her needs". The judge said he was already being more than generous without an order and she doesn't get to just go in and ask for gas money. What killed me about that is that I guess the husband also gave her $64000 (that is not a typo) for moving expenses that she had already blown through. I left wondering is she was BPD too, but I digress... . Title: Re: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: marbleloser on April 11, 2013, 02:46:16 PM No,you're not responsable for her.The first thing my atty said when I filed was ":)on't give her ANY money or pay any of HER bills."
broken3 is correct.Keep every expense you have going out.Even paying for lawn care for the property can be deducted from a final settlement. If there's no court order,don't do it. Title: Re: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: ForeverDad on April 11, 2013, 03:22:07 PM When I was getting divorced I was told that the only thing I was not allowed to do was kick him off of my insurance until after the divorce was final. But day to day expenses, unless she was a stay at home mom and relied solely on you for years and years, I can't imagine you are required to pay for anything that is not court ordered. As for how to handle insurance, it depends what it is for. If health insurance, yes, you probably can't change the status quo until the final decree. If auto insurance, then each spouse should pay for the vehicles each uses. It was explained to me this way: Vehicle insurance companies typically have policies stating you have to declare where the vehicle is 'garaged'. The policy typically covers only one address. So if you are separated and your stbEx lives elsewhere, then you probably can split the other vehicle off. What I did was, once it was evident there was no reconciliation possible and divorce was well under way, I called the vehicle insurance company and told them she lived elsewhere, with which auto(s) and how to contact her. The company sent her a notice to get her own policy and gave her time to comply after which she would be dropped from my policy. I didn't have to say a thing to her I just informed the company and let them follow their standard procedures. Title: Re: Expense Question am I responsible for her car repairs Post by: broken3 on April 11, 2013, 06:53:28 PM Cal,
I used to be in the insurance business so I know it well. Be careful the vehicle is not registered in your name. Numerous tickets and violations were given to her. And since my name was on the registration and insurance. They came after me. Get the plates, turn them in and cancel the insurance. Case closed. Make her responsible for "putting her big boy pants on". |