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Title: S.E.T. Post by: benny2 on April 22, 2013, 01:55:15 AM What I would like to know is how do you use the tools when you suspect there is someone else in the picture? How do you be sympathetic when discussing his ex whom he says is out of the picture but every part of you is telling you she is not? I just don't think I can do this in a calm and collective manner. I just want to tell him if she is what he wants then leave me alone and live his miserable life that he had with her.
Title: Re: S.E.T. Post by: Clearmind on April 23, 2013, 07:30:39 PM SET may not be the tool to use in this isntance benny.
COMMUNICATION: D.E.A.R.M.A.N. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=160566.0) D.E.A.R.M.A.N. is used when you have an objective, you want something specific, such as to get more sleep, to have help with the chores, to affect a change or to say NO to a request. You want the other person to come away feeling good about you and not full of resentment. This preserves the relationship. You also want to protect or even enhance your self respect. |