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I just had to post how smooth and great things are going.   :)

I've been "re-connected" to my bf again and he's been here, staying over, doing dishes, cooking together, laughing hysterically, gifting me with things, and for the most part, there is so much love and what seems like normalcy.

I am so in love with him, and when he's like this, wow, we really hit it off and it is so beautiful and amazing.  We just flow, and finish each other's sentences, and laugh, and talk and talk, and give to one another, and it's like we have our own secret when we're in the world, like no one has felt like we do.  It is so, so nice and I so wish it could stay this way... .  

He was a little anxious this morning, but we talked through it, and I did not react to him, but validated and responded, and I think all is good... .  

I'm a little worried about the other shoe dropping. 

But for now, I am trying to stay in the moment, and am very pleased with my progress, his progress and just the love and connection we share and how present it is right now.

Anyone else in touch with how deep the love is, and are things going well for you and your SO right now?

Hi--

I am glad to hear things are going well! Right now I am in a fairly good phase with my bf. I am focusing a lot of acceptance (he is not as available, because of family responsibilities and home renovations) and validating him. Yet I know this is just for "now", and that next week or month I will feel upset again about something or other.

  For me, i need to watch my own "splitting"---right now I am upset with someone else, so in contrast my bf "appears" better to me, in contrast to the other person. Plus I'd rather not be angry at even more people at aonce, so I think I am "splitting" a bit... .  so this phase has a bit to do with my using the tools, a bit to do with the pwBPD, and a bit to do with my view of the relationship being better in contrast to another conflicted relationship.

Enjoy

Shatra