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Title: I made the right decision with NC Post by: debbiejoe on April 27, 2013, 08:59:26 PM I really made the right decision with nc with. My uBPD sis. Her raging in the waiting room at me while my mom was having a mastectomy was one of the hardest things I ever went through. I have always ignored her in situations like like that but I opened my big mouth. I really need to remember that just because I'm even tempered doesn't mean that what I say will b taken in an even tempered way... . I am kicking myself for reacting to that trigger... . One thing that I noticed a long time ago is that she doesn't listen and feels no empathy or sympathy (of course... . ) and I get frustrated inside when not validated... . so I need to keep exploring ways to deal with my feelings of frustration when she has done something blatantly hurtful... . especially when it involves my kids... . Because I don't want contact... . maybe I will take up boxing and hang a bag in my basement to get my frustrations out... .
Title: Re: I made the right decision with NC Post by: BlueCat on April 28, 2013, 08:24:33 AM A punching bag has always sounded like a good idea to me too :) Finally realizing - really getting - that someone can't be reasonable is such a mix of relief and frustration. I think I know where you're at. |