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Title: Avoid reengagement Post by: WillSurvive420 on May 04, 2013, 02:55:18 PM my gf and i have been split up for 3 weeks. i saw her one week ago today, and its been NC since. she left my jacket at my house last friday... . she asked me if it was ok to leave it? in retrospect, she doesnt like leaving stuff behind usually... . Booby trap? She also has a pair of my swimtrunks... . she told mer her last bf just kept all her stuff, and refused to give it back... . Now i get why... . smart guy... . (only one to dump her) Wish i could get a hold of him, but only know his first name and hes not friends with him on FB anymore... . Did you notice any signs that they would reengage even after they PAINTED you BLACK to them and their family and Friends?
Title: Re: Avoid reengagement Post by: WillSurvive420 on May 04, 2013, 03:11:15 PM oh and i was the one that initiated NC. we had sex 8 days ago... . she asked me if we could be ~ buddies? and I was like are you serious? i dont wanna be ur fb... . (in retrospect thats exactly waht i wanted)
Title: Re: Avoid reengagement Post by: Clearmind on May 04, 2013, 06:31:05 PM WillSurvive420, split for 3 weeks, she has a few of your things, you reengaged 8 days ago and now you are wondering if there are booby traps to her reengaging again.
So WillSurvive - a successful reengagement takes two - the question is will you reengage? And why? Title: Re: Avoid reengagement Post by: WillSurvive420 on May 05, 2013, 12:43:13 AM shes graduating in 3 weeks and she has my shorts... . ive already decided im going to her graduation, but not going to reengage or talk to her... . i just feel like it will give me some closure that i helped her get to that point, and maybe thats Why God had me in her life... . to help her get to that point... . I helped her a lot with her school(more than her dead beat parents)
I miss her and I feel sorry for her... . i know repeating the same behavior and expecting different results is insanity... . I feel like if I tell her "im there for her" and keep my distance, then ill have a lil bit of peace of mind that i did everything i could to make sure she didnt feel abandoned. i feel like if we dont see each otehr again, were DEAD to one another... . idk moment of weakness and lonliness is whats making me feel this i guess |