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Title: Just wondering... Post by: bruceli on May 06, 2013, 01:34:34 PM My BPDw usually has her dysregulated blow-outs at bed time so as making it difficult to leave the house and return later. Has anyone else encountered this?
Title: Re: Just wondering... Post by: briefcase on May 06, 2013, 02:37:04 PM Yes, its fairly common. :)
Title: Re: Just wondering... Post by: Mara2 on May 06, 2013, 03:10:45 PM Yup- seems we always had a blow out when I felt trapped.
Title: Re: Just wondering... Post by: Mono No Aware on May 06, 2013, 03:34:25 PM Saturday night 10:00pm to 11:30pm, destroying my sitting in bed with a single glass of wine and a car magazine wind-down time. I refused to participate in a circular entrapment argument... . she left 3 times but never left the driveway.
Monday morning 2:ish am to ?:? am, destroying my sleep. I could barely stay awake for the abuse. Still a bit groggy now. I would not start down the path of thinking that they intentionally time their BPD-havior to lessen our chances of escape. That would infer them employing logistics with their mis-directed malice, and all their logic is tangled up in emotional debris and baggage. Remember, these episodes are not planned - they are triggered. IMO, perhaps night and bedtime are hard for BPDs. Sleeping in the same bed is such a trust thing, and the lonely dark is our first fear as infants. Title: Re: Just wondering... Post by: bruceli on May 06, 2013, 04:46:09 PM Saturday night 10:00pm to 11:30pm, destroying my sitting in bed with a single glass of wine and a car magazine wind-down time. I refused to participate in a circular entrapment argument... . she left 3 times but never left the driveway. IMO, perhaps night and bedtime are hard for BPDs. Sleeping in the same bed is such a trust thing, and the lonely dark is our first fear as infants. Mine has been Sunday night at around 10. As for the sleeping in bed... . My BPDw has actually said that. Fear of closeness/intimacy and having been single for 15 years. |