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Title: Do all of them paint black? Women more than men? Post by: momtara on May 11, 2013, 09:15:30 PM My husband and I are separated and he has been idealizing me, trying to win me back. Finally realizing how good i was to him. Is it possible that even if this decreases, I will never be painted black? I'd hate for him to hate me one day or look back on only the bad things in our relationship. Do they all paint black? Seems like women do it more than men.
Title: Re: Do all of them paint black? Women more than men? Post by: Siamese Rescue on May 12, 2013, 12:24:07 PM I got painted black in 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011, 2012 and a few months ago... . all by the same man.
Title: Re: Do all of them paint black? Women more than men? Post by: slimmiller on May 12, 2013, 12:26:19 PM Mine does whichever gets her what she wants. If she needs something form me (validation etc) she will try and charm me. When she needs to make me look bad to make herself feel better (fill her inner emptiness) she will rage and paint me black
Title: Re: Do all of them paint black? Women more than men? Post by: arabella on May 12, 2013, 05:32:28 PM I think it's possible. I've been idealized on various occasions for different periods of time. I've never been truly painted black. The two times dBPDh left me he said some nasty things but, so far as I could see, there was never a point where I was all bad in his mind. I suppose it could still happen at some point in the future but that seems unlikely at this point. I don't think there's much in the way of truly universal BPD behaviour.
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