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Last mother's day -

I spent all morning at home with my ex and my daughter. We had plans to spend part of the day with my family and part of the day with his. As I realized that there really was no surprise waiting anywhere, no happy mother's day, no flowers, not even a card, I got a little disappointed. He asked what was wrong and I told him (in a nice way) that I felt a little hurt. Boy did that turn into the worse nightmare ever.

I was in the car with my then 3 year old and he starts freaking out that he just wanted me to drop him off at home and he wasn't going to spend the day with me. At that point, I was livid. Turned into a huge argument and he looked at me and word for word with an evil look on his face "You're NOT my mother!".

I pulled the car over in a parking lot and told him to get out. Left him there with no way home. Before he would get out I heard him call his friend to pick him up and his explanation to his friend on the phone "she's mad at me because she's accusing me of not getting her a card and I did get her a card, I just hadn't given it to her yet!"

Flat out lie while I'm sitting there two feet away from him. I can't beieve I ever took him back after that but looking back at the past year, I can honestly say a huge part of my love for him died that day. It just never felt completely the same.

Happy mother's day for all you mamas and enjoy the day. I know my day will be so much better than last year

Are you divorced?

My hubby would be the same way - completely change plans if I said anything to rile him.

I didn't even bother saying anything to my husband last year.  He got me a card, actually.  But generally he spends every mother's day hiding in a room watching espn.  Now we are going through a divorce.  So I am not feeling like the day is much different than last year.  how hard is it to acknowledge that someone is being a good mother?  it really doesn't take much to be nice to your spouse.  

Well my first mothers day today! And Hubby is pissed cause I woke up our baby at 7 am when I got up to take a shower before work.

So Im not going to gently tell him I am hurt that there is no card. No flowers.  Because the day started like crap.  Im just happy that he texted me to appologize for acting out this morning. But then he found another reason to be pissed ... .  Hopefully, I will be writting the same post than you next year. As he is soon to be ex... .  

Well! My dear thank you for the Happy Mothers day and the same to you! We are good moms and we try our best and we know it! We dont need them to remind us , they will never anyways.

Girls I can relate.

I remember looking forward to Father's Day three years ago, because my birthday and Fathers Day are the two days over our 20 years together where she tried to tone down the hostility and make it "semi" about me.  

Well, this particular Father's day turned out HORRIBLE as she really went after me with the usual angry blame. Of course there was no pampering or special meal (she didn't cook), or invitation out - just a card (which in light of your stories I guess I should be thankful for).  I was kind of stunned and retreated to my room... .  and, embarrassingly for a guy to admit, shed a few tears in disappointment.

However, in the back of my mind I knew that at the end of the day, she would realize she blew it and offer "makeup" sex (which I always found to be a surprising quick and effective healing of my soul!) But this time she didn't.  And I knew from then on that I would never again set myself up for disappointment, trusting these two days to be any kind of a respite from the day-in and day-out war.