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I've been on and off with my BPD girlfriend/ex girlfriend undecided on what to do but I have some questions about the disorder that maybe could be cleared up. I'm trying to learn I'm very confused.  Thanks a lot for the responses

1. What causes the distance after being very close?

2. Is bailing out and not meaning what you say a normal BPD trait?

3. Why does she always come back when I stop putting in effort?

4. Does she really care or am I a security?

711guy, I have read alot and based on my own experience ill share with you what I think, with my ex the more intimate we became she would then push me away, she even told me that she alwsys pushes away people that get close to her, it's her way of protecting herself from eventually getting hurt, in the back of their mind is that people leave... .  so it's better to push away of course once they push you away they fear abandonment most of all so that's why they tend to come back, and believe me in their mind they say what they mean to us though we can see through alot of their lies... .  mine cussed me out and I told her I wasn't comin to see her and she blasted me big time telling me to die and one week later after I sent nc she tends me a text telling me how much she loves me and no guy will ever compare to me, and I tell her I won't take the accusation and name calling anymore and she turns tells me I'm cocky and she never loved me lol... .  I said thanks and take care... .  you are supply to them and she they can't find that supply they turn to where they can get it, mine was extremely attractive so I'm sure she has moved on, even though I have a mutual friend that told me she has really kinda flipped out after we broke up I think it's because I didn't chase after her and that is what she is use to... .  this disorder is all about them we are just passengers along for the ride and they kick us off and let us on at their will