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Title: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: b_girl on May 14, 2013, 02:13:23 PM I've had enough of his stalking me on FB so I'm going to block him. I want to do it this weekend but he knows where I will be then and I'm worried about his reaction. So, because I'm leaving for a holiday in six weeks for nearly a month, should I wait until then? I don't know if I can stand it until then, however I have already stopped receiving any notifications from him and have restricted him from seeing my posts.
Title: Re: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: Clearmind on May 14, 2013, 05:19:10 PM b_girl - is there a reason why protecting you is less important to you than protecting him?
Title: Re: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: b_girl on May 14, 2013, 05:34:29 PM I'm not worried that he will be upset (I'm past that and think I will feel hysterical relief when I know that I am free). I'm worried that he will rage and come looking for me.
Title: Re: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: Siamese Rescue on May 14, 2013, 09:35:43 PM how do you know he's stalking you on Facebook?
Title: Re: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: b_girl on May 15, 2013, 02:56:20 AM Because he posts memories of our time together, things that I have talked about, things about my family and then iif I try to get through to him he flips and threatens me using songs/posts. Its a constant push-pull on there I've been living with this for 5 months and I am weary of it all.
Title: Re: Blocking on FB, what can I expect? Post by: Iced on May 15, 2013, 03:22:56 AM If you've had enough, then block him.
Not responding, though, to his posts on FB (I'm assuming that's what he's doing from your descriptions) ever again and not checking his FB ever again will help also to break-break the cycle of 'post-and-get a response-post-and-get a response' and will help to give you a break from him from FB. Make sure you're in a safe place and around safe people who know the situation and be ready to call in the police if he's the sort to get violent if you think the situation might escalate like that. Program his phone number to either be silent or a specific ringtone (silent works best, then you can just ignore him without realizing you're ignoring him) and DON'T PICK UP if he calls. Same for emails; set a filter where all of his emails get filtered into a specific folder and DON'T READ THEM if he sends them. Pre-emptively block him on IMs/chat clients, etc, and put him on Ignore lists for everything else you can't block. Basically, BLOCK HIM (and stay away from him if you've really had enough) and DON'T RESPOND TO HIM if he decides to go into an Extinction Burst phase and try and get in touch with you. |